For those who don't know, my son Daniel has ADHD and ODD. And let me tell you, this makes life very difficult for me.
Just trying to get him up and dressed in the morning is like being sent through the nine levels of hell. I beg, plead, bargain, argue, threaten, and sometimes have to finally get him dressed myself which pisses him off. But by then I'm already frustrated and pissed beyond normal self-control and am near the point of throwing the boy off the Kansas River bridge.
This morning I told him if he hurries and gets dressed then he could play some games on my computer before he went to his playgroup. He got all excited and grabbed his clothes as if he's going to put them on. I assumed he was going to get dressed after that. Twenty minutes later I went to his room and he was laying naked on his floor playing with toys. I told him then it was too late to play games and he needed to get dressed… NOW!! I finally had to end up standing in his doorway threatening him with every punishment known to man to get him to put his clothes on. After he was finally dressed he said in his little, sarcastic voice, "Hah hah, now I get to play games!". Nope, sorry brat… you messed around too long and now there's no time!
Then I had to deal with 30 seconds of his screaming and throwing a tantrum…followed by 5 minutes of him blaming me for his not being able to play games because I didn't give him enough time to get dressed. It takes a lot of self-control at this point to keep from ringing his little neck.
It's very frustrating and takes a lot of patience and willpower to deal with a brat child like this. It's no wonder you hear on the news about parents who've duct taped their kids to the bed..or had them shut in the closet for several years. Sheesh!
I know what you mean. My cousin (age 3) has ADHD and ODD too, and he’s a little terror. Doesn’t help that my 65 yr. old grandmother has to take care of him and his brother (age 5) while his mother is at work.
He might be a pain but you wouldn’t trade him for anything int the world….
Chuck, we might not trade him for anything in the world, but there are definitely days when we’d gladly give him away for free to the first person who asked for him! LMAO! j/k (sort of!)
I understand completely. My adopted son is 13 and has ADD.
Good luck. Just don’t give up
What is ODD? My almsot 4 year old hasn’t been diagnosed but proabbly will in the next few years. She is more than a handfull. I can’t control her and I am afraid she will hurt herself if she gets out of a closed in area. Trying to get a formal diagnosis has not eben easy, maybe its my area but man to get ehr an appointemnt I have to wiat 6 months!
I completely understand the battles with a ADHD child, you love them so much and they take so much out of you daily!
O.D.D. is oppositional defiant disorder. If you click the ODD link in my post it will take you to a page with the diagnostic criteria for ODD.
It took my wife and I a while to finally decide to get help for our son. We’re glad we did though. I don’t know how he would turn out if he wasn’t getting some kind of help. He’s still VERY difficult to deal with but at least we know we are all getting help for him now
I’m actually looking for some info. My brother is 13 and came to live with me in April after our father died. He was diagnosed with ADD or ADHD when he was about 7 and was on meds. for a long time but when we got him he had been off meds for a while . I’m at my wits end with him! He can be very loving most of the time but I cannot keep his attention long enough to tell him to take out the trash but he seems to be able to play video games all day. What do I do ?